Today, October 22, 2015 is National Nut Day.
To celebrate the day, I fully intended to post a killer Chocolate Chili Almond snack recipe. Ran out of time after the seventh attempt to perfect the formula.
The almonds took a left turn at Flavortown and landed smack dab in the middle of Bland Camp.
Not tasty? Not posting.
So, I’m “repurposing” National Nut Day to write a blog of appreciation for the three things I learned from my favorite nut, my daughter, Tysha.
From the day she was born I’ve told and showed Tysha how much I love her and thanked her for being a wonderful, extraordinary individual. Can’t recall ever telling her about my gratitude for her nutty side.
Tysha is a perfectionist. Yet she strikes a remarkable balance between being silly and being serious. She wears an essence of goofiness like perfume. It mellows the meticulousness.
If she wants to go somewhere or to see someone, she goes. No hesitation.
No worries about make-up, what she is wearing or how she looks. It’s the adventure and the laughter that is important. Life happens in those moments.
I used to laugh a lot.
I used to be silly.
The nut did not fall too far from the tree. When people see Tysha and me together, they nod and say, “Oh, now I understand where she gets it.”
Unlike Tysha, I lost my daily LOL (Laugh Out Loud.) I let anxiety become my master.
I got heavy, tightened up, and forgot how to live.
Watching Tysha and talking with her, reminds me:
- it’s okay to lighten up and be myself
- it’s smart not to care too much about what people think of me
- step away from anything or anyone that crushes a merry spirit.
WHERE THERE’S A WILL, THERE’S A WAY
A few years ago, when Nevada was very slowly coming out of the Great Recession (more like a Deep Depression), Tysha was living in Wyoming and planned to come back to Reno.
“Are you nuts?”
Reminding her I was in the employment business and “jobs are as scarce as water in a mid-summer desert,” she did not let me deter her from reaching her goal.
“Stop worrying, I’ll find something,” she said with a smile in her voice.
And she did.
Later, she out grew that job. There was no room for advancement, she did not feel like she fit anymore and the feeling of unhappiness was pinching.
Tysha wanted to take a chance on a temporary position when Reno / Sparks still had not fully recovered its job market.
“Are you nuts?”
“Stop worrying, Mom, it’s all good!”
And it was.
Tysha is happy. She loves her job (that is no longer temporary), her co-workers, and the company. She’s making good money and her personal brand of nuttiness fits like a glove.
I am so glad she did not focus on my doubts.
She believed and trusted:
- in herself.
- in her worthiness.
- in her abilities.
She knocked hard on the door of opportunity and did not hesitate to walk through – although you might have heard her laughing as she stumbled on a dust bunny or two.
IT’S NEVER TOO LATE FOR TIMING & MOTIVATION
When Tysha was little, I tried to share and teach her the things I enjoyed.
She didn’t want to bake.
She didn’t want to sew.
She didn’t want to dance.
Understanding they were not her “things,” I left it alone and let her be the kid she wanted to be.
Three decades later Tysha:
makes cupcake bouquets.
became a Zumba® instructor.
creates exquisite costumes.
She taught me about the importance of owning the timing and motivation.
When pressured or forced to do something, my heart is not in it. I don’t feel the joy and I’m not motivated to stick with it.
I’ve learned the best we can do is offer to teach, train with patience and excellence, be available for additional instruction, and then detach from the outcome.
That kid in the featured photo transformed into a lovely, amazing woman – who is still a nutty kid at heart. Isn’t life grand?
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