365 Days of Transformation One Word at a Time©
Day #15 Patient
Is it just me or does anybody else have to REALLY WORK at being patient?
It’s a skill I’m still trying to master and doing fairly well at it.
Until someone drives stupid. Then out the window goes my serenity.
I do though; try really hard to have patience with people who are in a new job.
Having recently started a new job myself, no one could have treated me more poorly than I did. I was entirely too impatient and hard on myself.
Attempting to learn everything at once and not make any mistakes, I was getting stressed and starting to feel anxious. Then my brain kicked in recalling the steps my therapist recommended to help transform anxiety and its stress.
As impatience causes stress, I put to use the following steps, and worked my way to becoming calmer.
Nothing “out there” is causing the anxiety, impatience, stress. It’s the response to what is going on in the mind. We are not getting our own way and we want it now.
Getting our way all the time is an unrealistic expectation. We expect the environment, equipment, people and animals to conform to our expectations. We think everyone and everything should behave the way we want them to.
This includes expectations for us. Like mastering a new skill or job. We also tend to think we can master and control our thoughts. We can change them; however we can’t always control them immediately.
Allowing yourself to feel the impatience and accept that it is happening gives you the space to decide what it feels like. Is it unpleasant? That can prompt you to decide how you want to feel, who you want to be and how to respond at a higher level.
Can you find a way to make the situation tolerable? Enjoyable? Ask yourself, “Is there anything I can do to change this situation without making it worse or injuring myself or another person?”
Take three deep breaths holding the inhale for four seconds and the exhale for four seconds and breath through your answer. Focus on something fun, intriguing or humorous. Repeat today’s affirmation. Have compassion for yourself.
Practice, practice, practice.
I created an affirmation to transform the way I was treating myself. Repeating it in the morning, at night before sleeping, during the day at work and especially during the drive to work, helped enormously.
“I am learning to be patient. I am gentle and patient with myself. As I treat myself with gentleness, patience, and care, it spills over and touches the people around me.”
Transformation, one word, one day at a time.
Change your outlook.
Change your behavior.
When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.
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The author of this blog does not presume to offer psychological therapy nor advocates the use of any technique for the treatment of any specific or traumatic psychological condition without the approval and guidance of a qualified psychotherapist. The writer’s intent is to convey personal experience in the hope it may be of help in others’ personal quests for mind, body and spirit improvement. If you use any of the information as a form of self-therapy, the author / writer assumes no responsibility or liability for your actions.