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Day #15  Patient

Is it just me or does anybody else have to REALLY WORK at being patient?

It’s a skill I’m still trying to master and doing fairly well at it.

Until someone drives stupid. Then out the window goes my serenity.

I do though; try really hard to have patience with people who are in a new job.

Having recently started a new job myself, no one could have treated me more poorly than I did. I was entirely too impatient and hard on myself.

Attempting to learn everything at once and not make any mistakes, I was getting stressed and starting to feel anxious. Then my brain kicked in recalling the steps my therapist recommended to help transform anxiety and its stress.

As impatience causes stress, I put to use the following steps, and worked my way to becoming calmer.

BE AWARE

Nothing “out there” is causing the anxiety, impatience, stress. It’s the response to what is going on in the mind. We are not getting our own way and we want it now.

UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS

Getting our way all the time is an unrealistic expectation. We expect the environment, equipment, people and animals to conform to our expectations. We think everyone and everything should behave the way we want them to.

This includes expectations for us. Like mastering a new skill or job. We also tend to think we can master and control our thoughts. We can change them; however we can’t always control them immediately.  

FEEL IT

Allowing yourself to feel the impatience and accept that it is happening gives you the space to decide what it feels like. Is it unpleasant? That can prompt you to decide how you want to feel, who you want to be and how to respond at a higher level.

LIGHTEN UP

Can you find a way to make the situation tolerable? Enjoyable? Ask yourself, “Is there anything I can do to change this situation without making it worse or injuring myself or another person?”

Take three deep breaths holding the inhale for four seconds and the exhale for four seconds and breath through your answer. Focus on something fun, intriguing or humorous.  Repeat today’s affirmation. Have compassion for yourself.

Practice, practice, practice.

I created an affirmation to transform the way I was treating myself. Repeating it in the morning, at night before sleeping, during the day at work and especially during the drive to work, helped enormously.

“I am learning to be patient. I am gentle and patient with myself. As I treat myself with gentleness, patience, and care, it spills over and touches the people around me.”

Transformation, one word, one day at a time.

Change your outlook.

Change your behavior.

When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.  

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The author of this blog does not presume to offer psychological therapy nor advocates the use of any technique for the treatment of any specific or traumatic psychological condition without the approval and guidance of a qualified psychotherapist. The writer’s intent is to convey personal experience in the hope it may be of help in others’ personal quests for mind, body and spirit improvement. If you use any of the information as a form of self-therapy, the author / writer assumes no responsibility or liability for your actions.

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Day #14  Terrific

The first time I heard about the power of the word “terrific” was on an Ed Foreman cassette tape in the early 1990’s.

The tape’s title was “How to Have a Good Day Every Day.” The message made me feel so amazing I literally wore out the tape from listening to it every morning on my way to work.

Thank goodness I’d made copies for my fiancé and co-workers who also enjoyed his recording.

Ed Foreman is a former United States Congressman from two different states, Texas at the age of 28 and New Mexico at the age of 35. If you want to read about his fascinating background, click here

Mr. Foreman always responded with the word “Terrific” in any situation. Even if he had to growl it a little bit as he made the effort to be terrific no matter what the circumstances.

He taught me about the power of choice and the power of positive words.

He tried to teach me not to wait until I retire, or make enough money, or find the perfect job to be happy and terrific every day. He tried to teach me there is magic in simply choosing to feel good. To recall experiences where I was feeling good and replicate that emotion in present time.

One day I decided to call his company and tell them what a difference Mr. Foreman had made in my life. His staff asked me to hold and O.M.G. the man himself picked up the line.

After thanking him for sharing his knowledge, we had a wonderfully long and heartfelt chat about life, taking responsibility, and choosing our words wisely.

I hung up from that phone call sighing like I’d met a rock star.

And I guess I had – a rock star in the motivational arena.

I dedicate this Terrific Tuesday to Ed Foreman and his favorite word that still inspires me.

“I am terrific. Today I gift every one with a smile and tell them to have a terrific day!”

Transformation, one word, one day at a time.

Change your outlook.

Change your behavior.

When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.  

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Day #13  MARVELOUS

Raise your hand if you love Monday and it’s your favorite day of the week.

Uh huh.

Not too many positive responses.

One day many years ago listening to a Tony Robbins book-on-tape (yeah, on tape, that tells you how long ago that was) I was stunned to hear him say if you’re doing what you love, Monday was the same as any other day of the week, including Saturday.

Whoa. Run that by me again?

I wore out the tape listening to that portion.

What a marvelous fantasy. It was beyond my imagination, yet it must be true because Mr. Robbins stated it was possible.

Since then I experienced a few Mondays (emphasis on few) where it felt the same as any other day of the week.

And he’s right.

It is possible.

And isn’t that marvelous?

My current employer and I know that while I love my job and the work I do, it isn’t my dream job. And I’ve learned to be superbly fine (the definition of marvelous) while I’m working toward my dreams.

Moaning and groaning my way through Monday morning can’t change the fact that it’s Monday and the fun stuff weekend is over. What I can change is my mind, which can change my emotions and how I feel.

It takes practice. It takes effort.

Am I superbly fine all the time, every Monday? Nope.

However, I know that even if it’s Monday or Tuesday or any other day of the week, I have the power to adjust my emotions and feel whatever I choose.

And isn’t that marvelous?!

Transformation, one word, one day at a time.

Change your outlook.

Change your behavior.

When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.  

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Day #12  STRONG

When contemplating the word strong, my mind started playing the word association game.

Strong – Steel

Steel – Iron

Iron – Thor

Thor – Yum

Whoops! That didn’t go where I intended.

See how the subconscious takes over if we don’t pay attention?

My thoughts were leap-frogging over themselves trying to establish that strong doesn’t have to be rigid.

Strong is defined as the power to perform physically demanding tasks; able to withstand great force or pressure; not easy to break or damage.

Asking my husband to help with the word I was looking for, he said, “Leather. It’s strong, yet pliable if taken care of and oiled properly.”

That’s it! And so the image for today contains a background of diamond plated steel overlaid by leather.

And since today is Father’s Day, leather reminds me of dads.

Leather jackets, leather car seats, saddles and belts.

Fathers who pick up their children when they fall, guide them with a strong and loving hand, and balance their convictions with compassion, love and joy.

If you don’t or didn’t have an ideal father, we can turn to the CEO of the Universe who is always available to teach us about strength, compassion, love, and joy.

Strong doesn’t represent only males, females are strong too. This is another one of those powerful words that will be repeated in our 365 Days of Transformation.

When you fall down, get back up to thrive another day.

When you make a mistake, admit it and continue to love yourself and everyone around you.

Be passionate about your convictions and balance them with compassion – a deep sympathy and mercy – which means you will not injure someone because they do not believe the way you do.

Release the need to be angry because someone does not share your convictions. Being strong is releasing the need to control other people and that gives you the freedom to surround yourself and others with joy.

 Transformation, one word, one day at a time.

Change your outlook.

Change your behavior.

When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.  

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Day #11  HAPPY

Okay. I’m going to fess up. There was a point in my life when bubbly, cheerful, undeniably happy people annoyed the heck out of me.

I would growl under my breath. Barely stopping short of snarling at them.

Must be nice to always have plenty of money, drive a fancy car, have a great close-knit family, a fantastic healthy body and a heavenly wardrobe.

Oh yeah, I was a dissatisfied, discontented mess.

And wasn’t that a pretty picture?

The really sad part?

Some of those people didn’t have plenty of money. They drove old cars, had serious family and health issues, had a far from fantastic figure and sometimes looked like hell.

Those people had such a genuine aura of happiness surrounding them I couldn’t see that they didn’t lead perfect lives.

I was blinded by misery.

Wanting that kind of happiness for me, I decided to believe I deserved to be happy and rid myself of any subconscious obstructions.

It took a lot of soul searching, questioning all my beliefs, habits and traits. Questioning the definition of what made me happy and confronting a God I believed hated me. I asked the Holy Spirit to make clear to me what I needed to know.

Discovering the power of choice led me to a major transformation and the most delicious sense of freedom.

I get to chose how I feel. Even if I don’t have a million dollars. (Which I always thought was the greatest highway to happiness.)

Yes, still experience sadness, anger, frustration, and hurt. Then I get to chose how long to experience those emotions.

I encourage you to find your daily happy.

Discover what fulfills and satisfies you. The more you experience gratitude for what you have and stop comparing your life to others the more contented you become.

Let’s choose to be one of those bubbly, cheerful, undeniably happy people. Because we can, not because we want to be annoying.

Today’s affirmation was repeated upon awakening, multiple times during the day, and at night before sleeping to revolutionize my thoughts.  

“I am willing to believe I deserve to be happy. I am capable of choosing to be happy every day whatever the circumstances.”

 Transformation, one word, one day at a time.

Change your outlook.

Change your behavior.

When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.

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Day #10 FEARLESS

Woo-hoo it’s Fearless Friday! Thanks to Erin Mecseji, PCC, CPCC
Leadership and Personal Coach I have a new mantra “Embrace Imperfection.”

I spent pretty much my whole life trying to be perfect. Imperfection and failure was not an option.

So guess what? The one dream that is nearest and dearest to my heart, getting one of my books published, hasn’t happened. Too afraid to let anyone see my work.

The writing isn’t perfect yet.

I might have failed to get the character arc right. The humor might fall flat or maybe it’s too serious and maybe . . .  yadda yadda yadda . . . yawn.

It’s time to embrace imperfection and see failure as a good thing or go to the grave with the books inside me instead of on Amazon, or in a book store, or in a library. Or better yet in your hand.

We know what I would do.  How about you?  What would you do if you felt no fear and knew you could not fail? (Based on a quote by Robert H. Schuller)

Today’s affirmation is “I am fearless and willing to believe failure is good for it teaches me what I need to know and learn and what I need to release.”

I’ll be repeating it several times today with you. And cheering for you to be fearless and take a step toward your dream.

Need help on figuring out the next step to your dream? I highly recommend you contact Erin and see if she has an opening for a new client at Encompass-Coaching.com.

 Transformation, one word, one day at a time.

Change your outlook.

Change your behavior.

When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.

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Day #9  AWESOME

Awesome is my A#1, all time favorite, go-to word.

Like a chef reaching for her/his favorite knife, this is the word I could use all day long 365 days a year.

It adds flavor to a day by cutting through the humdrum and slicing through the routine dullness of “I’m fine.”

For several years when asked, “How are you?” I answered, “Awesome!”

It always made people smile.

And that made me feel even better.

I am in awe every time I look at and think about the sun, moon, stars and planets that are perfectly aligned without a single human at the controls.

I am in awe every time I look at and think about the animals, birds, plants and trees living and multiplying and able to thrive even if no human existed.

What an awe-inspiring divine intelligence that runs through everything! Including me. And you. And every other human.

When I recognized and owned my awesomeness, I was able to gladly recognize and see the awesomeness in other people. And that made my life better.

Repeat the affirmation “I am awesome. Divine intelligence is in me. I am happy, grateful and willing to listen and respond to my inner voice” in the morning, at night before sleeping, and as often as you can during the day.

Write down how your subconscious answers. It may tell you what is blocking you and what needs addressed or it may give you a one million dollar idea.

I always balance everything against the Fruit of the Spirit found at Galatians 5:22, 23 (KJV) Will my actions result in Love, Joy, Peace, Long-suffering, Gentleness, Goodness, Faith, Meekness, and Temperance?

 Transformation, one word, one day at a time.

Change your outlook.

Change your behavior.

When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.  

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Day #8  SATISFIED

There was a time when I thought “satisfied” meant more was expected of me.

If my parents, an employer, or client said they were satisfied, I always felt it implied I could have done better. My performance was adequate, not brilliant.

Customer service training reflected the belief that a satisfied client is acceptable, but it doesn’t mean they are thrilled or a raving fan.

Sales training reflected the belief that a satisfied client is okay, but better step up my game or next time they would probably buy somewhere else.

Employer’s evaluations ranked “Satisfactory” mid range on a scale from Poor to Excellent.

In the world of transformation and the Law of Attraction, I’ve discovered that satisfied can have a very positive meaning.

According to Webster’s Dictionary satisfied “fulfills the desires, expectations, needs, or demands of; make content. To put an end to (a desire, want, need, etc.) by sufficient or ample provision.”

Really liking those words “fulfills” and “ample.” No lack or further expectations implied.

I never experienced contentment or fulfillment until I experienced daily gratitude. Becoming grateful for who I am and what I have, created lightness inside me, a breathing space.

Gradually, as I started to enjoy that space inside me, I was willing to give that space to other people. I lost the desire to attempt to control or manipulate people or circumstances because it is too draining and a waste of precious energy.

Following yesterday’s word of grateful, today is entirely appropriate to say, “I am satisfied. The weight of the world is lifted when I release the need or desire to fix, control, or own what belongs to someone else.”

Transformation, one word, one day at a time.

Change your outlook.

Change your behavior.

When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.

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Day #7  GRATEFUL

Gratitude is a huge transformational tool.

Countless stories and experiences have been documented of people’s lives turning around when they started focusing on being grateful.

The practice that helped me the most is found in “The Secret” a book devoted to explaining the Law of Attraction and how to use it.

My energy and thoughts shifted for the better by making a list of three things for which I was most grateful that day. I repeated the list every night before falling asleep and again in the morning upon awakening.

During the day, instead of focusing on lack, complaints and challenges I begin noticing the things that made me feel good.

Searching out the good became a habit that definitely brought more joy and satisfaction into my life.

When I am grateful for who and what I am and for what I have the magic begins!

Transformation, one word, one day at a time.

Change your outlook.

Change your behavior.

When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.

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Day #6  GOOD

We live in a turbulent, flawed world.

I do not look at the news on a daily basis, as it is too disheartening and rarely does the news media explore anything beyond life’s horrors.

When people rely on unspeakable violence to speak for them and terror strikes, I no longer allow myself to think too much about the incident(s), nor to sink too deep into despair. For that only leads to a darkness inside me.

I feel sad and my heart goes out to the victim’s families then I knock on the CEO of the Universe’s door and turn it over to Him. I pray for the parties involved and ask for peace.

I cannot control other people or situations that don’t belong to me. I can only control myself, my emotions, my thoughts and my feelings.

Today, I choose to cloak myself in light. I choose to feel good. I am willing to believe happiness and good always outweigh evil.

And above all, I choose hope for a better world when only good will come.

One word, one day at a time.

Change your outlook.

Change your behavior.

When asked, “How are you?” answer with today’s word.

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