Flaw Season

You see the signs everywhere this time of year:


I’ve had some pretty gnarly life-threatening cases of flu, however, my health suffered just as much from the cumulative dis-ease during “Flaw Season.”

Flaw Season is how I label:

  • embracing and magnifying flaws and pushing strengths to the side.
  • too much focus on mending weaknesses instead of honoring and seeing my worth and power.
  • ignoring and refusing to evaluate habits that obstruct my good.
  • focusing on what I do not want instead of what I do want.

Without precautions, Flaw Season would have lasted a lifetime.


Have you done mirror work? It is a wonderful preventative measure to combat Flaw Season and transform mind, body, and spirit health.

You begin by gazing into your eyes in a mirror and repeating the words, “I love and accept you exactly as you are,” as suggested by Louise Hay in her book You Can Heal Your Life.

At first looking into my eyes was too difficult, so I looked at my face.

An appalling lack of concentration plagued my early attempts.

“Oh man, look at that disgusting hair curling out my nose. Step away from the mirror and pluck that sucker out!”

“Hideous. I look hideous. Dark circles, puffy eyes, boy that lack of sleep is showing. I have back-to-back appointments today, can’t see people looking like this, and my hair! I’d have time to fix everything if I wasn’t staring into this mirror. I’m going to be late for work!”

“Wait. I think I missed a slide in that PowerPoint presentation. Did I? I can’t remember. The meeting’s tomorrow morning; I’ll have time to check it if I get to work early. (Yawn, yawn, yawn) I’m so tired and I’ve got so much to do! Gotta put this mirror down and get stuff done before bedtime.”

“Good heavens, is that another wrinkle? Look at all the wrinkles! This mirror work blows.”

And off my thoughts would go on a tear about getting older, the laundry, dinner, what was on Food Network, etc. etc. etc.

The whispers of divine intelligence must have felt like they were in a crowded bar with the band cranking tunes at 85 decibels or in the middle of a playground surrounded by screaming children.

Eventually with practice, I looked directly into my eyes, thoughts calmed and I heard my inner voice.

  • It told me what I was really thinking about loving and accepting myself.
  • It revealed what feelings and beliefs were blocking me from accepting and receiving my power.
  • It pointed out how centering on flaws was a flaw.

The act of writing down where the thoughts, feelings and beliefs came from illuminated what I needed to acknowledge and heal.

Journaling the mirror work led to transformation, as I made choices on what to believe and where to put my focus.

Journaling is a measurement tool.

Experiencing progress stimulates motivation to continue working. Seeing a mass of baby steps transforming and adding up to substantial breakthroughs is exciting.

Divine Intelligence opened the door to people, books, movies, blogs and resources that provided information when I needed help in processing and understanding how to move forward, learn more and make life-enhancing choices.

Mirror work was only the beginning, a pro-active injection to start shaking off the perpetual winter of the soul.

© 2013 – 2015 Susan C. Fix All Rights Reserved

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Gone With The Wind

For sale on Craigslist is my Gone With The Wind doll trunk and ten ensembles that fit the Scarlett O’Hara 15.5” doll. Franklin Mint no longer produces them. It’s time to let them go to another GWTW fan who appreciates the fashion doll creations that replicate the beauty of the originals.  Does anyone else remember the first time you saw Gone With The Wind?

4 Scarlett Fashion Doll Ensembles    Oh, those dresses! Right?

It was the late 1960’s on a Saturday night that I first saw GWTW on the big screen – theatre – big screen televisions were in a very distant future, far, far away.  Being just a wee babe, okay, okay, a wee pre-teen, I was captivated by the characters, the gorgeous gowns and … swoon … when Rhett carried Scarlett up those stairs.

The following week I checked out the book from the library. Immersed in the Deep South, the War of Northern Aggression, and Scarlett’s manipulations, I spent days on end imagining me in those humongous hoop skirts. Yards and yards of imaginary fabric swayed and swirled, whispering against the floor.

Franklin Mint For the Love of Tara Ensemble for 15.5 Inch Scarlett O'Hara Doll    Swish, swish, swish.

Anyhooo, back to the point of this blog, when lifting the heavy trunk and removing the contents to photograph the empty space, it triggered a comparison. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if I could clear my mind like that too?  Take out and remove the old heavy hurts and concepts. Start all over. Begin fresh and form new thinking patterns and beliefs.


Is it possible? YES! Like inspecting the gowns for flaws after removing them from the trunk, it takes time and patience to discover buried beliefs and examine them for defects. Here are five guides I’ve used to decide what hangs in the closet, goes into the drawers and on top of the shelves of my mind.

  1. PRAY. Ask the CEO of the Universe for guidance. He knows everything about each one of us. Read Psalm 139. He can shine a light on the attitude, view, or emotion that we need to work on first.
  2. YOU ARE WORTHY. A formidable soul-sucking barrier; feeling unworthy will stop you in your tracks when choosing new thoughts. Repeat #1 above and ask what is blocking you from feeling worthy and how you can change.
  3. BE OPEN AND RECEPTIVE TO CHANGING YOURSELF. You and only you are in control of your thoughts, actions and emotions. No one can make you do or feel anything. Even the CEO of the Universe, the most powerful being in existence gives you free will. It is up to you how to use it.
  4. MAKE LIFE-ENHANCING CHOICES. This can be a tough one when you aren’t familiar with stopping anger, hurt, shame and negative thoughts. Practice, practice, practice. Ask yourself if what you are thinking improves, boosts, develops or enriches your life. Repeat #1 above for guidance on how to change your thoughts. Louise Hay’s “The Power is Within You” and Dr. Wayne W. Dyers’ book “Your Erroneous Zones” (click on title for YouTube audio version) helped me immensely.
  5. MIRROR WORK. Oh boy, this one is an eye-opener. If you’re like me, it will have you in tears – the breakthrough kind! “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay includes directions on how to use this powerful tool.

Through prayer, meditation, grounding and aligning my chakras (more on that in another blog) I’ve cleared several pieces of muck out of my mind. Some I wasn’t even aware I was thinking or believing! It was by NO means easy. There were times when I just wanted to stop working so hard to improve and quite frankly didn’t give a damn. Yet once started, I could not go back and I am so much happier now that those wasted viewpoints and attitudes are gone with the wind.

© 2013 – 2015 Susan C. Fix All Rights Reserved